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Prayer is simply a conversation with God. It does not need special words or a special place, although people find that these can help.

What to say

Prayer includes asking God for help with things that trouble us. It also includes thanksgiving for the good things in our lives and the world.

Praying with or without words

You can use your own words to talk with God, as you would with a friend. Sometimes we use a lot of words in prayer, at other times just a few words like, “Dear God, please help my Mum to get better” or “Please help Fred find a job” are needed.

There are prayer books in our pews or you are welcome to read a hymn as a prayer too. You can buy books of prayers in the Cathedral Shop.
Sitting in silence in the Cathedral thinking about God can also be a prayer, as can weeping.


Pray wherever you are

Some people like to have a particular place for prayer such as a chair or by a candle or a cross on a shelf. You are of course more than welcome to pray here in the Cathedral. You can also pray:

  • at home
  • at work
  • when walking the dog
  • standing at the bus stop
  • enjoying beautiful scenery

Whenever you like

You can pray whenever you like. However some people find it helpful to pray at particular times such as:

  • when you first wake up
  • before a meal
  • before you go to bed

Join us

We would love for you to join us in prayer at our regular services and special services.

A listening ear

We have Listeners and clergy around the Cathedral who will be happy to spend time with you and listen to your problems or thoughts. Find out more in Pastoral care.

Lighting a candle

Some people like to light a candle as a visible sign of their prayer which continues to burn after they have left the Cathedral. If you like, you can write your prayer on a piece of paper and leave it in the basket. We will then read out your prayer at tomorrow’s service.

Help with prayer

Would like someone to pray with you? Do you feel troubled about something and would like to talk to someone or make a confession? Then please ask the chaplain on duty or one of our stewards and they will find a member of the clergy.

You can find more advice on the Church of England's website - they have helpful suggestions on learning to pray and a collection of topical prayers, whatever your need.